When people hear the word “narcissist” they often picture someone who’s self-absorbed, craves attention, or boasts excessively. But in clinical and relational terms, narcissism runs much deeper.  The effects on those around the narcissist can be psychologically devastating...

At Through the Woods Psychotherapy, we specialize in helping survivors make sense of these confusing dynamics. In this post, we’ll walk you through the narcissist definition, clarify common misconceptions, and help you understand the signs and emotional impact of narcissistic relationships.

Types of Narcissists

Not all narcissists look or act the same. At TTW, we use a clinically grounded, trauma-informed model of narcissistic abuse recovery based on the work of Dr. Ramani Durvasula. According to her framework, there are different styles of narcissism—each with its own patterns and impact.

Here’s an overview:

1. Grandiose Narcissist

This is the “classic” narcissist: charming, confident, and validation-seeking. They often present as leaders or high-achievers, but can be arrogant, dismissive, and lack empathy in close relationships. They tend to be controlling and reactive when they’re not at the center.

2. Vulnerable (or Covert) Narcissist

These individuals are less flashy and more emotionally fragile. They may appear sensitive or insecure, but often use guilt, self-pity, or passive aggression to manipulate others. You might feel like you’re always walking on eggshells around them.

3. Malignant Narcissist

This type blends narcissism with cruelty. They may be controlling, vindictive, or sadistic. Emotional abuse is often extreme—and includes things like prolonged silent treatment, public humiliation, or calculated manipulation.

4. Communal Narcissist

They appear generous or socially conscious on the outside, often seen as “helpers” or leaders in community spaces. But their giving often has strings attached. They expect admiration and recognition in return, and can become resentful or punishing when they’re not praised.

5. Somatic vs. Cerebral Narcissists

Some narcissists focus heavily on physical appearance, fitness, or sexual conquest (somatic). Others focus on intelligence, status, or intellectual superiority (cerebral). Both use these traits to gain validation and dominance in relationships.

Why Understanding the Narcissist Meaning Matters

Many survivors blame themselves for the harm they’ve experienced. But once you understand these patterns (especially in the context of the different narcissist types) you begin to see it’s not about you being "too sensitive" or "not enough." It’s about someone else using emotional power in a way that erodes your sense of self, for their own gain.

Narcissistic Abuse-Informed Therapy: A Path to Clarity

At TTW, we don’t just offer trauma-informed therapy—we offer narcissistic abuse-informed therapy. This means our clinicians are trained to spot subtle manipulation, chronic invalidation, and the long-term impact of being in a relationship with a narcissist. Using Dr. Ramani’s NATC model, we help clients:

• Process the relationship and self-doubt
• Rebuild self-trust

• Identify red flags
• Set and maintain boundaries when appropriate
• Process betrayal and grief
• Reclaim their voice and identity

Ready to Begin Healing?

Understanding the mesning of narcissism and the different types can be the first step toward reclaiming your power. You don’t have to stay in the cycle of confusion, self-blame, or emotional burnout.

Book a free 15-minute consultation with one of our Ontario-based therapists at www.ttwpsych.ca to begin your recovery.

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Happy healing,

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